I Tweeted a #FF For Some Gay Friends

This was in part a true #FF and in part a gesture of congratulations now that New York State has passed a bill that will allow gay people to marry people they love.

I left out poor, sweet, wonderful Will Choy from my tweet (and he was quick to remind me). I’ve since added an additional tweet with his name in it and then realized I had also left out a few other gay friends, and I was like, well, now I should probably go through my entire “following” list to remember who’s gay and who’s not because I don’t want to leave anyone out. Or should I? I don’t know, that’s a lot of work. It was really just a small gesture I made while falling asleep to Ghost Adventures on my couch.

Then I realized that the reason I didn’t initially think of Will Choy is not that I don’t like him (I do) or never see him (I do) or that’s he’s Asian (he is). It’s that I don’t compartmentalize my “gay friends” and my “straight friends.” They are just “friends.” It was somewhat of an effort for me to think “okay, who is gay?” Because, you know, all my friends are just people first and foremost.

And people deserve basic human rights, equality and dignity. I’m glad there are smart people in charge of making big decisions who understand that.

I am sorry, Will Choy. I mean… Will.*

*inside joke I share with my friend Will Choy